On Motivation, and Why Discipline is Better

“If you wait for inspiration without trying or endeavouring to meet it halfway, you’ll become indolent and pathetic”.

That’s one of my favourite quotes. It’s quite unfortunate that I don’t remember who originally said it (if anyone does, please let me know in the comments!).

I don’t watch a lot of the “motivational type videos”, and not for a lack of trying. I would get into a mental slump and convince myself that if i watched/listened to a person, with a cinem

Just start.

Begin before you’re ready.

Take the plunge.

Just do it!

(Yes, I’m invoking the meme. Judge me).

We hear this all the time. How we should begin working on our dreams right away. Stop procrastinating on the things we need to do and yet, and I’m definitely speaking for myself here, we wait.

Wait for that spark or something that’ll push us into action. Wait for that a-ha! moment when the laziness seeps away from our bones, this sudden burst of energy and boom! we’re able to do the job.

Why do we do that? What are we waiting for? And why do we think we need to do so?

There are thousands of videos on YouTube, of articles online that are geared towards satisfying that impulse, scratching that itch.

And if you enjoy content like that, there’s nothing wrong with that (in my opinion anyway), and as far as it doesn’t become a crutch, or a means of further procastination and ignoring what you actually need to be doing.

But here’s an unrevolutionary idea : don’t wait to get inspired. Don’t wait for the aha! moment. Just start where you are.

Now this is coming from a serial procastinator, so i wouldn’t fault you for ignoring me.

But hear me out :

This was a big reason why it took me so long to begin writing again on this blog. I got into a writing slump and decided to wait for motivation to take me out of it. If i waited for the right moment, I’d write this amazing something amazing and it would be all worth it.

Spoiler alert : that didn’t happen.

So I just started writing again. It was a pretty anticlimactic moment, but I’ve written more this week than I have in months. Which is a definite win in my book.

There’s no way to work through anything than by actually working through it.

Don’t wait for motivation to develop a new habit or lifestyle. Just start as you are, keep at it, practise again and again at it. Through when it sucks, when you don’t feel like it or when it’s probably the last thong you want to be doing.

Do it because practice would make it easier. Because over time, discipline will build like a muscle, and while it might not suck less, you’d be able to look back at how much progress you’ve made and (hopefully) know that it was the better choice to make.

A Short Story or My Love Becomes A Shroud

He’s thinner than she remembers. His shirt hanging awkwardly on his shoulders, his gait sluggish. Pants barely held on by the leather belt.

He’s walking slowly across the lawn, arms deep in pockets.

She wants him to look up, to see her standing there waiting for him. But his eyes are glued to the ground. A word from her lips would do the trick, she knows, but for some reason she hesitates. Unspoken words die before they’re given life.

So instead she waits.

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Chaos and All of Its Friends

Before I begin, I’m going to address my intent to ignore the elephant in the room : my long absence away from this blog. I’ve thought over how I’d address said absence over the past months. Apologising, rationalising, a mad mix of the two… But now that I’m writing this, I’ll just say thank you to the people that stayed subscribed to my sarcophagus of a blog, probably because you forgot to unsubscribe, but I’ll take that all the same 🙇🏾.

This year will certainly go down in history, as the disruptive depressing mess it deigned to be. And in my personal life, it bore a handful of landmarks, both expected and not.

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“Table for one, please!” ….(or the perspective of a single female)

“You kinda need to have someone, you know. Not necessarily be in a relationship, but yeah.. We’ll soon be in final year.. You need to have someone.”

That was said to me by a classmate/friend the other day in class. The topic of marriage/relationships had come up somehow (I forget how), and I had commented of my lack of a significant other and the fact I was in no hurry to get said person.

He seems to disbelieve me…. Aren’t you in your 20’s already and with medicine, you know how it is….

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